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SKILL OF LURE

AUTHOR: WOO Sang-Ho

SUMMARIZE & COMPILED BY: GDPRamos

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION ……………………………………………………… ii

LESSON 1: Conquer Thy Fear ……………………………………………………… 1

LESSON 2: Smiling ……………………………………………………… 1

LESSON 3: Master a Good Opener ……………………………………………………… 1

LESSON 4: Technique to Seal Off a

“No” Answer ……………………………………………………… 1

LESSON 5: Subtle Prediction ……………………………………………………… 2

LESSON 6: IOI (Indicator of Interest) –

The Sign Women Send Out to Express

Their Interest ……………………………………………………… 2

LESSON 7: Negative – The Art of

Rejection ……………………………………………………… 3

LESSON 8: Establish a Close Rapport ……………………………………………………… 3

LESSON 9: False Time Constraint ……………………………………………………… 4

LESSON 10: Whoever You Want to See,

See That Person After Repeating This

Ten Times in Our Mind ……………………………………………………… 4

LESSON 11: DHV (Demonstration of

High Value) ……………………………………………………… 5

LESSON 12: Conspiracy ……………………………………………………… 5

LESSON 13: CT (Compliance Test ……………………………………………………… 5

LESSON 14: Become the Alpha Male of

The Group (AMOG) ……………………………………………………… 6

LESSON 15: Induce Jealousy ……………………………………………………… 7

LESSON 16: There is No Such Thing As

“The Skill of Lure” ……………………………………………………… 7

LESSON 17: Congruence ……………………………………………………… 7

LESSON 1: Conquer Thy Fear

The fear element is actually non-existent. It’s about distance regardless if you’re outgoing or not, we naturally tend to keep some distance from stranger that comes as natural to us. People doesn’t dislike us, it’s just how humans operate and that’s our fear comes from, that we misunderstand. We should overcome our own insecurity and fears which serve as the first step. Fear is created by our own consciousness. Build your courage in the event that you meet the person you truly love with all your heart.

LESSON 2: Smiling

A great smile is a man’s greatest weapon.

LESSON 3: Master a Good Opener

Opener means a good way to open a conversation. A race starts with a whistle, and the classes start when the bell ring. A human relationship starts by having a conversation. When you have confidence and smile that’s enough warm up. You should now use those lessons in the open field. What’s crucial in a good opener is never start a conversation with an apology. You never ever start by saying “excuse me?”, that kind of shit will have little to no charm at all. Situational Opener – it’s an opener where you can use after observing and finding the best way to strike up a conversation that matches the situation. Functional Opener – We can use this on street. Use it when you can’t read the situation and just want to approach aggressively, you start by asking normal things and create situation you can adapt to which then allows you have a chance. Direct Opener – We use it when we really want to be direct.

LESSON 4: Technique to Seal Off a “No” Answer

This technique allows to pave a direct path to how we want to lead the conversation. It’s a subtle hint that most people can’t catch onto during a conversation. We might get an answer or two out of the other person but we are not prepared for what comes next If it’s between good friends you won’t have a problem since you’re comfortable around each other but with a stranger if they cut off conversation with no way to continue the conversation it’s hard to get it going. Subtle Negative – There is only one answer I wish to hear and the person will answer me the way I desire regardless. Double Bind – Regardless of what answer the other person gives me that’s already an answer I’ve anticipated. Whatever the answer you’ll come out as the victor! It’s a passive method to reduce the rate of rejection by not giving them a chance to say no. Because whatever they answered was bound to be the answer, I wanted to hear in a conversation led at my pace.

LESSON 5: Subtle Prediction

A human cannot function outside of these 4 categories. It’s four topics everyone thinks about on a subconscious level: money, social relations, fitness and dreams. If we keep those 4 in mind when you start a conversation you can create conversation that naturally flows. Subtle prediction is a method to perfectly disguised a topic. For example: Without Subtle Prediction: “What is your goal in life?” With Subtle Prediction: “Do you have something you’re preparing lately?” …. is a good lure to cast. How many people live without goals? Almost everyone is working towards their goals and dreams at some level. It will fall under prediction as 100%, and by narrowing the conversation to their dreams, we can lead an interesting conversation and by using bits of subtle negative and double bind we can turn it into blast! Snap Syndrome – Like taking a photo using a camera in mere 5 seconds after the flash goes off. It’s like when meeting someone for the first time, the first impression really comes down to the first 5- seconds of meeting. Which is why it’s crucial to have great confidence so you can leave a good first impression.

LESSON 6: IOI (Indicator of Interest) – The Sign Women Send

Out to Express Their Interest

Human being has a natural habit of showing their emotions through actions unconsciously most of this can be seen in their posture. Active IOI – It’s a bodily posture to show a person is interested. Signs:  Leaning towards to the person  The person is open to conversation and wants to closer  Not trying to avoid kinship  Often touching the hair  The person is not trying to create distance from the guy  Eye contact while talking  Checking their looks from time to time  The person is not biting their lips but instead they keep their lips moist  They trying to mirror action, in other words taking the same pose while chatting

Three Major Way on How to Build Trust? Mirroring – It’s a skill where you mirror the person’s movement and build intimacy in IOI (Indicator of Interest). You empathize with the person and show respect while finding things we share and expressing it through not only movements but also through conversation. We have to give the person a sense of kinship saying “we have a connection” and “we are the same” over and over. Back Tracking – Repeating the important words in what the person is saying. We can’t just listen, we have to agree, react and respond to them. The person will feel like we truly understand them and starts to trust you more deeply. Pacing – It’s a skill where you get on the same pacing with the person while chatting. Match your talking speed with the person. It’s a way to harmonize with a person physically and emotionally. See if the person breathing is fast or slow and match our breathing to it. In turns, we watch our feelings with the person. Our emotions, movements, and our mood too. When people say they “speak the same language”, it means the pacing is right. However, techniques without heart is useless. Don’t pretend, respect and be considerate to the person. People supposed to be cherished, mostly ladies. After building trust, the “attraction” is on. Attraction is the force that attracts people, synonym with gravitation and charm. It means the switch named “interest” is on.

LESSON 9: False Time Constraint

False time constraint is a skill for pulling the person into our time. It means make the person grateful for our time. It also has an effect of letting the person know that we won’t take too much of the person’s time and let her guard down all while making her focus on us alone for a short amount of time. The important thing is to check the person’s time before putting time constraint, it’s not like a math where there is a definite answer.

LESSON 10: Whoever You Want to See, See That Person After

Repeating This Ten Times in Our Mind

A person’s attractiveness is completely subjective. Just because the person looks pretty to us, it doesn’t mean they are attractive to others too. Don’t foolishly hypnotize ourself saying that a person is different than everybody else. The person is special because we see them as special. The most special person in the world is us, so have confidence. How can someone love us if we don’t love ourself? What is the purpose of the first date? It is “embedding”, to get imprinted in other’s mind. To put it plainly, it’s the time to understand the other person and appeal to them. Knowing their hobbies are, what they like, and what are they’re interest or dislike, that’s what we’re trying to achieve on the first date. The person who we have date is the answer to a fun date.

LESSON 11: DHV (Demonstration of High Value)

Proving our high value to a person. The proof of high value, words or actions that demonstrate our value to make the other come chase us. In easier words, its appealing that “I’m on a completely different dimension than other people that they met before”. There are several values to demonstrate: Genetic Values – These are genetic conditions like appearance, height, and body shape. Values that are recognized instinctively. Social Values – Meaning things that we have achieved through out our life. Good connections, a respectable job, wealth, good qualification and so on. These values are opposite to genetic values. Aside from two there are other values like pre-selection which means we are selected by other people and thus already approved, and being protector, the type of person to protect them. Women are considered to have slightly more HV (High Value) than men. That’s why they don’t find men who they consider are lower value than attractive. Each person has their own charm. If we know what our advantages are, everything can be used as our strength, our DHV. A man who takes risk and has ambitions, even being able to tell negative comment is DHV.

LESSON 12: Conspiracy

Sharing secrets only between two people. Using secrets, in-jokes, and pet names only you and them share to form intimacy. It’s a way of getting close with a person by building a frame around the two. There is no relationship more special and intimate than the two people sharing secrets. Increasing the sense of unity by having secrets. A secret is sometimes we can’t let other people know, meaning a special bond forms between people who share it. There are three ways to do it:

1. Plot fun and private conspiracies just between two people.
2. Use pet names and code words just for the two of you
3. Share secrets just between you two.

LESSON 13: CT (Compliance Test)

To put it simply, it’s to ask them to do a certain thing for you so that we can measure how interested a person to us. If they comply with what you request, it means that they’re thinking about us so we can progress further. However, if they reject it means that your DHV is still low with them so we can appeal our charm to them again. Compliance test is to check and measure just what kind of relationship they currently have with us. In other words, it’s essentially saying “what kind of person am I to you?”.

Peacock Theory – Becomes the most glamorous amongst the males. Male peacocks out-shine females by mile. They adorn themselves because the more beautiful they appear, the more popular they’ll be. It’s one of the most primitive methods to use making yourself stand above everyone else. Suspension Bridge Effect – It’s a term used when two people of the opposite gender meet on a shaking bridge. Turns out they’re likely to all in love with each other. When they meet in that situation, fear and anxiety takes control, and your body starts to release adrenaline, causing your heart rate to increase they’re likely to mistake it for an attraction. It means that it’s easier for the couple to like each other in a dangerous situation. Stock Speil (A Shaman’s Hidden Art of Speaking) is when you ambiguously say something in order to broaden the conversation. It’s easier for the target to feel like it’s their problem. Dynamic Superiority – It’s a technique that allows the third party to think that the person is approaching us, it shows off superiority. SOI (Statement of Interest) – It’s beyond IOI, it means to declare that you have “interest” in the other party, in other words declare your affection. It’s a skill that takes you a step above simple affection for each other. It’s important to know what the declaration of interest is not a confession. Don’t say you love them and never start with praising their looks. Anchoring Effect – It means to drop an anchor on a certain distance so that the ship cannot go any further. In the human society, if a bad image of something sticks to us, we’re affected by the memory so no matter what kind of situation we’re in we’re less likely to choose that certain brand in the future.

LESSON 15: Induce Jealousy

We can either use pre-selection or stimulate them by using DHV. Jealousy plotline, in other words inducing jealousy on the target so that they realize what kind of feelings they have for us by themselves.

LESSON 16: There is No Such Thing As “The Skill of Lure”

Because you’re already a great man!

LESSON 17: Congruence

Being able to live up to our words. When we tell someone who we are, make sure we care for the tiniest bit of details so that we’re true to our words. Become a man that’s consistent to our own words. If you lie in order to look good in front of someone we like. The person we like will remember our action and probably grow to not being able to trust us. That’s what they call “congruence test”. The person will always look at our words and actions in order to judge us. In other words, we need to be true to the other party.